When my sister (a sister I chose... not by blood or marriage) died, I was high on meth. Shortly after I got the news, I started my heroine phase.
I crawled out of the hole, but I still haven't stopped grieving... maybe I'm not doing it right.
I still post messages to her on her Facebook all the time, ten years later, especially when I see something that would make her laugh. I miss her laugh.
This piece will help so many. Thank you. I, too, drank right through grieving the loss of my dad. It wasn't until I got sober that I was able to actually work through all of it - my relationship with my dad (the good and the bad) and how the loss would affect me - it still does. It's not linear, that's for sure.
Allowing yourself to grieve is so painful, I understand why we avoid it.
But that is how the energy associated to loss gets processed, otherwise it is toxic to us.
Thanks for sharing your story Roscoe. Very powerful.
God bless you and your mum
When my sister (a sister I chose... not by blood or marriage) died, I was high on meth. Shortly after I got the news, I started my heroine phase.
I crawled out of the hole, but I still haven't stopped grieving... maybe I'm not doing it right.
I still post messages to her on her Facebook all the time, ten years later, especially when I see something that would make her laugh. I miss her laugh.
It sounds like you're doing your best to keep her memory alive, within yourself and for others. That's a wonderful thing.
The grieving might not stop for a while but those messages to her will help ease the pain a little.
Thanks for sharing this. It's a valuable lesson.
This piece will help so many. Thank you. I, too, drank right through grieving the loss of my dad. It wasn't until I got sober that I was able to actually work through all of it - my relationship with my dad (the good and the bad) and how the loss would affect me - it still does. It's not linear, that's for sure.
Sorry for your loss, Allison.
It sounds like we had similar experiences and ditching alcohol has been the key to our recovery - from many things and in so many ways.
I'm grateful you were able to find sobriety and that you're able to articulate your experiences so eloquently for people to resonate with.
Keep going 💪
You too, Roscoe. Pain can transform. I'm sorry for your loss as well.
I love that there is a thriving sobriety platform here on Substack.
Keep writing and sharing.